You’re on the brink of a nervous breakdown. Your long marriage and settled life lie in broken bits at your feet. No amount of glue is going to fit that mess neatly back together.
What do you do?
Join the Y.
Or a gym. Or a yoga studio. Or a dance class.
Put down that glass of wine. Turn off the TV. Get up off the couch. Move. Get those endorphins going.
The first time in my life I ever joined a gym was a couple months after I initiated divorce
proceedings. It’s one of the steps that saved my sanity.
My YWCA is close to my house. That’s one point in its favor.
Another is that it’s a friendly place. I often bump into my neighbors, so I get hugs at my gym. I’ve even made some new friends.
No one is pressured to be a fashionista at my Y. Loose t-shirts and any old shorts will do. I love that about it.
I’m an exercise class person instead of a machine person. I like the camaraderie of working out in a group, the imposed discipline of having to be there at a certain time. Plus the instructors push me harder than I’d push myself. But lots of people love their time on the treadmill.
My friend, Ryan, gets all this from a dance studio. Downsized, divorced and uprooted across the country for a new job, that’s Ryan. Triple whammy, all within a few months. His answer? The mambo.
I never would have pictured this straight-laced preacher’s kid swiveling his hips to provocative Latin beats. He loves it. Just danced in a regional competition, won first place for that mambo of his. Go Ryan!
The point is, he and I feel physically great. Probably the best we have in years.
I just got back from a Y class. Lying on my back, looking up into the rafters and the slowly rotating fans, listening to the instructor push me with my stomach crunches, brought me back to how soothing, how calming this routine was in the early months of divorce, when I was an open, seething wound of pain.
Belly dancing, pilates, tai chi, weight lifting, yoga, ballroom dancing, spinning, swimming, whatever it is that you enjoy, get going. Just do it!
Check out this 2 minute video from Contrex, a French brand of bottled water . It’s clever in a way only a French exercise video could be. The message at the end reads, “You’ll lose more weight if it’s fun.”